How is it that I have been so grossly misunderstood? I know I have a lot of failings, but I am trying to be a decent human being. I try every day and hope I'm improving. Somehow, some people think I'm not such a decent person. Think I'm out to get them...but I'm not. I may shield myself emotionally from a lot of things but just below the surface is a sensitive, easily-hurt, caring person that wishes she could fix the world. Sure, I've made mistakes, but I'd like to think that I've never intentionally tried to hurt anyone. I don't want to hurt anyone. I am not out to get anyone. I just want to be left alone to pursue some kind of happiness for myself. Please, hear me. Please, just believe in a person that wants to do what's right and be happy.
I'm asking now for character witnesses. I hope that you will comment and be honest about what kind of person I am. If you think I'm a jerk, say it. If you think I'm a good person, say it. I will either get an idea of what I need to change or some positive reinforcement about the direction I'm pursuing in my life.
So grossly misunderstood
8.30.2009
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So Mel, Bry and I talked about this. We believe that those that grossly mistake you are the ones that don't know you beneath the surface. They are the ones that haven't bothered to get to know who you really are. The thing that blows my mind is that you allow people that really try to get to know you to see that you are that kind, giving, do-anything-for-you, protect-you-to-the-death kind of person. You are fiercely loyal, to the people that you love, and I count myself a million time lucky to be in that circle. Because of that you can come across as hard to those that are trying to take advantage of those you love. You are a blast to be around, and yet know when it is time to slip into the background. You are one of the most capable and willing to help people I know, and because of that you take into account everything you ask of other people. You think in a way that is lost on most, because you think ten steps ahead, while people are still processing their first step. Don't let those that misunderstand your surface take away from what it is that makes you so amazing Mel. You are and always will be someone I want to be more like, my hero/role model that I've had since I was little. I love you big sis!
We only removed that other one because we wanted to add one more thing, but nothing was removed. Just so you know! Don't want you thinking we deleted something we didn't want you to see! :) See you soon!
You're living so that means you can't help unintentionally offending others. I say the dumbest things sometimes and beat myself up for years about it. After trying to explain I anxiously hope the other person will recognize that I, in no way, meant harm. Then again, some people love to play the victim and will take what you say and, by nature, misunderstand a situation to create drama.
Whatever the case, even a good person like yourself can be made to look like the one in the wrong. And the most frustrating aspect is when others won't hear you out on your side of the story when you'd like to set the record straight.
You are a fabulous person, thoughtful and someone I trust! As difficult as it may be you've got to be confident that your true character will be recognized by others. And this bit of unpleasantness will pass.
Mel, as it turns out you always made me feel more understood and a lot of others make me feel like I am from Mars. I don't like feeling I am from Mars just because I don't have the same beliefs as others or act in a way that is considered "the norm." You never made me feel like I was strange. That is actually kind of a short list lately, so I think that makes you a good person. At least in my book.
I can honestly say...youre one of the neatest people I have ever met.
And whoever it is that thinks differently, can meet me at www.rachelfoulger.blogspot.com for a chat war.
You're one of the best people I know. Period. Anyone that doesn't get it, isn't worthy.
And they can go #&$% themselves. ; )
Since you asked, you are totally a jerk:) Just kidding- you are one of my favorite people!! Who said you were a jerk- I will beat them up!
I KNOW that you are thoughtful, kind, and always think of others first. You have ALWAYS been that way. It was annoying when we were growing up and you were already a more mature, better person than me... and you were the little sister. You put more thought into your actions and words than most of us do. That might make others take offense because you don't spout out the first thing on your mind, you think first. It is a trait I admire in you and wish I had more of. People care about how you act around them because they know that you are a great judge of character and they want you to like them. Being liked my you is an incredible compliment. You are completely sincere and have not one phony bone in your whole body. Maybe that makes people nervous, like you see through them. I don't know that situation, all I know is that you would never intentionally hurt another human being. In fact, it is infuriating sometimes how far you go out of your way to make sure everyone else is okay. I want to slap you and tell you to look out for number one sometimes :) Love you, Alison
I LIKE MELANEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!
Honestly Mel, you are one of those people I'm simply impressed with. I think you are an incredible person. Period. I'm proud to say that I know you because you're just so freakin' cool. I've learned alot from you and I don't even get to see you that much. People suck. You...do not.
Tell me who they are...I will kick them in the teeth!
You are the BEST! You know I love your freaking guts. You have always been there for me in so many ways I cannot tell them all here. I am so lucky to have you as a big sister.
Here is one of my favorite quotes that about sums up these lilly-livered people I am going to beat up for you.
"You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life."
-Sir Winston Churchill
Mel, We think you are great! I don't even think you are anything less than great on the surface! I remember when I first came down here to school and there was a family reunion, you were the only cousin who actually had a conversation with me. Pure awesomeness... that is what you are.
Mel is the ultimate best friend and roommate anyone could have. Sister falls in there too, I am sure. I have never had such a great roommate experience as I did living with Mel. She is honest and real, but isn't afraid to laugh til she cries, on the floor. She also was always there for me- anytime, night or day. I haven't known anyone else with such an amazing and calming effect as Mel has on people. She is incredible, and I count myself lucky to have ever known her. Love ya Mel.
Melanee = Best person I know, period!
You're at the top of my list.. let's do lunch next week!
With what I understand of the situation, anyone who doesn't know how awes-mazing you are is too narcissistic to see how it was not about them, or too insecure to have someone as strong as you around them. We LOVE you Mel!
Melanee Raynes, I love you. You tell the truth, even when it hurts you. Whether it's teaching yoga to a Mom that's been extremely ill, purchase a house from your friends in need, change a blown tire in a dark canyon, fix really messed up computers, turn a blind eye when your computer is destroyed by a 2 year old, start a couple companies, leave a couple companies, babysit babies and just plain be a friend when friends are scarce. None of us are perfect Melanee, but there are a rare few who are courageous enough to admit when we are wrong. Honesty will always pay off sweet heart, please know you have a friend in me always and I would be a character witness anytime and anywhere you need me. Except, I'd need a babysitter for my kids if I did, so could you help... ;)
I have always been a fan of yours..always will be. Love ya.
Not only can I say with all honesty that you are a good person, but you are also the absolute BEST room mate I have ever had traveling. I miss seeing your darling face!
I blog stalk you occasionally. Just had to pipe in here and say that I think you're one cool chick. I love how honest and real you are. A lot of people love you.
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